Anger is natural. It is a part of a person’s system of defences and has been evolving every since vertebrates appeared on Earth hundreds of millions of years ago. When a person is in control of his or her anger, it can be motivating and empowering. For example, sports competitors need a bit a anger to get ‘psyched up’ to compete – it helps give them the adrenaline and focus they need to perform at their best. But when anger is uncontrolled or happens too often, it can be exhausting and potentially dangerous.
The NHS has advice on anger management, here: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/controlling-anger/
Unmanaged anger is usually a symptom of something deeper. For example, when a person habitually gets angry at small things, it’s usually because they’re already chronically stressed, and anger feeds stress in a vicious cycle. When the person learns ways of decreasing their general level of stress then the anger problem often goes away. Sometimes anger can be explosive and might seem to come from nowhere. Explosive anger is more likely to result in the angry person hitting out at others or destroying property, only to be deeply upset and remorseful once the anger has dissipated, but by then it may be too late: irreparable damage to property, relationships or other people may already have been done, with all the attendant consequences. A person’s whole life can be drastically changed for the worse by only a very brief outburst of explosive anger. But explosive anger doesn’t come from nowhere – when a person learns to spot the warning signs, they can take the necessary steps to prevent an outburst.
If you find yourself struggling to manage your feelings of anger, counselling may help you increase your self-awareness, learn what triggers your anger, and put in place effective and lasting strategies for regulating your stress levels, taking control of your anger and finding constructive ways of expressing your anger.